Darlene Lancer

True happiness emanates from self-esteem, which is the cornerstone of successful relationships, work, and life. Self-esteem reflects how you treat and talk to yourself.

Darelen Lancer, JD, LMFT - What Is Codependency

Darlene Lancer JD LMFT

Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

I bring a wide range of professional and life experience to my practice as a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and relationship and codependency expert. I wrote Codependency for Dummies and Conquering Shame and Codependency: 8 Steps to Freeing the True You. Over the course of 30 years, I’ve helped men and women recover from codependency and trauma. More

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The Narcissist Quit Kit

This Kit includes 3 essential e-workbooks, an audio, plus 4 bonus files to deepen your understanding of a narcissist’s personality, motivations, and defenses. You’ll learn to effectively confront abuse and manipulation and improve your self-esteem, communication, and self-love. You will take back your power, enhance your well-being, and prepare you to leave if you choose.


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Steps of Codependency Recovery

The overall goal of codependency recovery is to become a full-functioning individual. That entails knowing, valuing, and trusting yourself, and expressing yourself in your life…

Healing Psychic Wounds of Codependency

Codependency is a response to trauma wounds to our young psyche in childhood. It damages our relationship with ourselves and other people. Relationships activate those very wounds, but recovery is possible.

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Why Narcissists Act the Way They Do

You can enjoy narcissistic symptoms when a narcissist is charming, charismatic, seductive, exciting, and engaging. But they can also act entitled, exploitative, arrogant, aggressive, cold,…

Do’s and Don’ts in Confronting Abuse

Abuse is about having power over someone. Abusers typically want to feel superior and to control and dominate. To them, communication is not about understanding.…

What Is Codependency? – A wealth of information on Codependency Symptoms and Codependency Recovery provided by Darlene Lancer, author of Codependency for Dummies